Self Care (Yes, You!)

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When You Need More

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Get Your Documents Together

Legal Documents

  • Court orders (temporary, final, emergency)

  • Custody and visitation schedules

  • Restraining orders or protective orders

  • Court filings (yours and theirs)

  • Judge’s rulings and minute orders

  • Mediation summaries or reports

  • Custody evaluation reports

  • Guardian ad litem or minor’s counsel reports

  • Attorney correspondence

  • Proof of service documents

  • Transcripts or hearing recordings

Evidence of Abuse or Misconduct

  • Photos of injuries or property damage

  • Police reports or incident numbers

  • CPS/Child Protective Services reports

  • Statements from witnesses or mandatory reporters

  • School records or teacher notes about behavior

  • Screenshots of harassment, threats, or stalking

Financial + Practical Proof

  • Receipts showing you’ve provided care (school supplies, clothes, groceries)

  • Child support payments or receipts

  • Employment records (if job loss or schedule is part of the conflict)

  • Housing or rent documentation

Mental Health + Medical

  • Your own health records or evaluations

  • Children’s health records

  • Medical records showing injury, trauma, or diagnoses

  • Any documentation about your health being used against you (e.g., epilepsy, anxiety, PTSD)

Timeline + Notes

  • Personal journal of events (dates, what happened, who was involved)

  • Calendar entries showing custody exchanges, missed visits, or incidents

  • A running timeline document to anchor everything

Protect Your Privacy + Devices

Change All, Yes ALL, Passwords

Change every password to something strong, unique, and private—especially for email, cloud storage, and social media. Avoid reusing old ones, and never share them again.

Remove Shared File Access

Go through your Google Drive, Dropbox, iCloud, and Notes—revoke access to anyone who shouldn’t see your files anymore. Delete shared links, change permissions to “Only Me,” and back up anything sensitive.

‘Find My’ on iPhone

Open your iPhone Settings > Apple ID > Find My > Share My Location—make sure it’s only on for people you trust, or turn it off completely if you’re concerned about tracking.

Open Your Own Accounts

If your ex controlled the finances, phone plan, or utilities, it’s time to open your own. Use your own email, billing address, and phone number—and keep logins private.

Install Trusted Antivirus Software

Protect your computer from spyware or remote access by installing reputable antivirus software (like Malwarebytes, Norton, or Bitdefender). Run regular scans and keep it updated.

Clear Out Google

Go to passwords.google.com and remove any saved logins or autofill data tied to shared devices. While you’re at it, clear browsing history and saved credit card info too.

Two-Factor Authentication

Turn on Two-Factor Authentication for Gmail, Apple ID, banking, and social media—use a secure app like Google Authenticator or Authy for even better protection than text messages.

Regularly Search Yourself

Google your full name, email, username, or any aliases—check for anything suspicious, slanderous, or exposing. Use quotes for exact matches and search in Incognito mode for clean results.

Check for Cameras + GPS

Physically inspect your home, car, and personal items for hidden cameras or GPS devices—especially inside bags, under car seats, and around outlets or vents. If you suspect stalking, trust your gut and sweep thoroughly or get professional help.

Give Neighbors a Heads-Up

Let a neighbor you trust know you’re dealing with a difficult situation. Ask them to watch for unusual activity and not share your whereabouts without your permission.